A huge congrats to all of you who got engaged over the holiday season, and to all of you who have already contacted me, I’m delighted & honoured to be a part of planning your celebrations.
Now let’s talk about the bigger picture……….
Here are a few pointers to remember over the next few weeks.
1. Communicate & have fun
Have chats, many chats on what you both want & expect from the entire experience. You will probably both have different views and expectations on what you want and expect from the day, but this is normal so respect each other’s views and opinions and remember that nothing is set in stone and in time the event will eventually evolve into what you both really want and expect. This is supposed to be an enjoyable experience and a launch pad into your future life together.
Simply; make a plan, talk to each other, be clear and specific about what you want. Be aware that this plan will change many many times but go with it and enjoy the experience of putting together what will probably be the biggest party of your life.
2. The date & venue
Really important, do not rush into choosing a venue that you may think you love! Every venue has it’s own merits but not all may suit your tastes and essentially your budget. If you are considering a venue where you can design your own day (which I highly recommend) enlist the help of a professional like myself to do a site visit where we can discuss the pros and cons and come up with realistic ideas on how to make it awesome without breaking the bank.
Consider your working calendar and your holiday time, there are quite a few occasions where you can obtain good deals deals on pretty amazing venues, this leads into ……
3. The Budget
How much do you want to spend ? How much do you have and what will you be likely to save before the date. Honestly, if it means putting off the date for a period do it!! It will be a much more relaxed experience without any unnecessary financial worries.
4. Trust your instincts.
Remember this is going to be a day for both partners so go with what you want, what you really want and not what others expect from you and the traditions that may come with those expectations, even if certain family members are contributing towards the event.
5. Gather a few close confidences
A small close knit group of confidences including someone who has gone through it before and who you trust impeccably. Also someone who is a good leader (if not yourself). Be wary of including very close family members into this group. Also be aware that some may try and organise the wedding that they never had themselves or that which they would have wanted.
A close group (& a planner) also gives you more confidence about your decisions and also stops you from blabbing to absolutely anyone who will listen about your plans, as this usually leads to people running away from you and avoiding you in work and socially.
6. Research and trust your suppliers
We all know that word of mouth is invaluable when it comes to procuring quality suppliers. However we all know and love certain suppliers. talk to them and see what you can do together. Certain establishments will provide lists of recommended suppliers but be aware that you are under no compliment to use them. If you have a caterer whose food you love and trust and you really want to use them, you can insist that your venue allow you to use them.
7. Everything is fixable
Do not panic, things will not always go the way you want to but remember there is always a solution.
8. Take a break
Take many breaks, have a few tech free days, turn off the phone, even better go for a pampering day.
Remember if you have seen a venue you love and are not sure of how it will work for you, I am always available for a one day venue viewing and will provide a honest and accurate account of what I would consider a realistic opinion for every couples expectations.